THE LIST

Traits that I Require in my Long-Haul Partner:

0. THE SPARK- whatever that may be. scientifically defined, or otherwise...duh.

1. (drumroll, please...because i'm not afraid to say it) PHYSICALLY DESIRABLE- a face that makes me quiver when they gaze at me.

2. INTELLIGENT- give or take, my intellectual equal. educational level is flexible, but must be driven and high performing in whatever area they've chosen.

3. EXPRESSIVE- (this is one i forgot on my last list) willing to share emotions verbally, artistically, and especially in writing. (i mean, seriously, how could i have missed that altogether?) regularly tells me that i'm beautiful, in dynamic ways. (jeah, so i'm a chick, whaddaya want??)

4. SENSITIVE- must be willing to empathize with my emotional needs. (sick a mf haters)

5. somewhat ASSERTIVE/AGGRESSIVE- this does not necessarily preclude sensitivity. = ) somewhere in between assertive and aggressive...protective to a certain degree, dominant in bed, and rather chivalrous, when warranted.

6. ADVENTUROUS- must be willing to travel *just about* anywhere in the world. includes a willingness to live overseas, since a EU passport is my birthright and i plan on doing dissertation research in latin america.

7. INDEPENDENT AND NEEDY- that's right, a balance. maintain separate and meaningful daily lives, whist participating in a shared existence. while maintaining emotional dependence. = )

8. SENSE OF HUMOR...- this one is probably further up the list, but it's too late for me to renumber everything. must have an ability to share in my twisted perspective. we must have the ability to tell jokes to one another in a crowded room without speaking. this humor thing is definitely attached to the intelligence factor- my jokes need to be understood without explanation. catch em or they're gone. this person also must have the ability to make me beam for hours on end!! living loving laughter.

9. FAITHFUL- in whatever circumstance we agree upon, which is fluid throughout the course of the relationship.

9. cheesy, but, dedicated to SELF-IMPROVEMENT- in career and health.

10. dedicated to CONTRIBUTION- must somehow be engaged in improvement of our earth, world, city, country, or what not...whether in work or volunteerism.

11. EASY-GOING in nature- open to possibility, including both spirituality and science. not interested in breeding. not attached to frivolous things (like big wedding or a big house). ability to off-set my tendency to be overly concerned with life's momentary and constant stressors. also, must not have any issue about my sexuality, and be very secure in their own.

12. loves to be ACTIVE and EAT high quality food- together. : )

13. loves my KITTY- ha ha, yes that one too.

Overall,

*stirs me, drives me, frees me, inspires me, and revels in my doing the same for them.*

These are my requirements, Universe. A Lover by nature. The Rest is up for discussion.